Esther Vilar, August 1998: There should be a stop to women manipulating and deceiving men under the banner of "men's victims".

 

Esther Vilar, August 1998: There should be a stop to women manipulating and deceiving men under the banner of "men's victims".

  

Here is a summary of the main points discussed in the book "Manipulating Men" by the German psychologist and sociologist Esther Vilar:

 

Author's Introduction:

 

The book opposes the monopolization of public opinion by the feminist movement in Europe, criticizing the bold and unrealistic portrayal of women as victims of men.

The author's main aim is to rectify the misconceptions about men.

Aggressive feminism portrays men in a negative light, labeling them as selfish, power-hungry, ruthless, and lustful. Anyone who rejects this unfair image of men is labeled as "anti-women, backward, fascist."

Men's challenging and harsh lives are often overlooked or not acknowledged, including their sacrifices in wars, years of service, and the lack of decision-making power regarding childbirth and abortion.

There is a need to address women's manipulation of men and their deception by promoting the slogan "men's victims."

Esther Vilar, August 1998

 

Happiness in Slavery:

 

Most men rush to help women even when they don't need it, and women always expect this assistance. Women make men work for them, think for them, and bear their responsibilities, exploiting them while men do not exploit women.

Shouldn't the qualities of strength and intelligence in men qualify them for power? Why have these qualities become qualifications for slavery instead?

How did women manage to exploit men without making them feel cheated or humiliated, but rather proud and superior just because they were exploited by women?

What is a man?

 

A man is a provider for himself, his wife, and his children.

On the other hand, a woman is someone who does not work, and even if she does, she works for herself only.

Any qualities in a man that women find useful are considered masculine traits, while other qualities are deemed effeminate.

A man's appearance must be masculine if he wants to succeed with women because he fulfills their need to be connected to a strong man who works hard for them.

Regardless of what a specific man does or how he spends his day, he shares one thing in common with all other men: he is harnessed to earn a living for his wife and children!

Every moment of his life, he will spend as a responsible individual in a ruthless system designed to exploit him to the fullest until the day he dies.

What is a woman?

 

As mentioned before, a woman is the opposite of a man, someone who does not work. She chooses physical comfort and a place for reproduction.

Women do not use their intellectual abilities; they deliberately let them wither until they reach mental numbness and lethargy.

Why don't women use their intellectual potential? For one simple reason: they don't need to. It is not necessary for their survival.

One of the worst mistakes men have made, and the mistakes they repeatedly commit, is assuming that women are equal to them, meaning they have the same intellectual and emotional capacity.

Men seem unable to realize that women completely lack ambition, desire for knowledge, and the need to prove themselves in all areas considered important by men. This kind of independence for men means nothing to women.

Women do not feel embarrassed by men's intellectual superiority because they do not have ambitions in this direction. Here is one significant advantage that women have over men: they have a choice - to choose between a man's life and the life of a dull parasitic element.

Of course, a woman will always be happy if a man examines her admiringly with his eyes because it boosts her self-esteem! But what truly matters to her is examining another woman because these women are the measure of her success or failure. Women's standards conform to those held by other women, not to men's standards.

 

In the world of women, there are only women. Men.!

The woman is tied to the man who works for her. Emotions only come into play if he threatens to leave her, as her livelihood is then at stake. Therefore, it is futile for any man to think that his wife will be loyal to him just because he works hard and provides her with everything she truly cares about.

 

There is nothing common between a woman's loyalty and a man's loyalty. Unlike men, women are practically immune to the appearance of the opposite sex. If a woman flirts with her husband's closest friend, her intention is to bother her husband, whose feelings she deems important, unlike her husband's feelings.

 

In the end, they have very few commonalities. If women are liberated from financial support, most of them would prefer to spend their lives in the company of other women rather than men.

 

It's a man's world. Unlike women, men are beautiful because they are thinkers. This means:

 

Men thirst for knowledge.

Men think.

Men are creative.

Men are sensitive.

Among all the features of men, their curiosity is certainly the most admirable. This curiosity fundamentally differs from that of women, who are only interested in topics that have an immediate personal benefit to them.

 

Even subjects outside their realm of interest pique a man's curiosity, whether it's in politics, botany, nuclear physics, or who knows what else.

 

The other type of man, who lives only for himself, works only for himself, does something first because he simply enjoys it and because he has to preserve himself, sleeps wherever and whenever he wants, and confronts women when he meets them, as equals and not as one of a million slaves to them. This person is rejected by society.

 

The free and unbridled man has no place in the middle. It's frustrating to see men, year after year, betraying everything they were born for. Instead of discovering new worlds, they abandon all these vast possibilities and allow their minds and bodies to be diverted into side paths to serve women's basic primitive needs.

 

It's unbelievable that men, who have boundless intellectual desires in all other areas, are completely blind to these facts and unable to see women for who they really are: creatures with nothing to offer except their bodies.

 

A man chooses to give up his freedom in exchange for loyalty to a woman. He feels remorse and seeks to give meaning to his empty actions that have no meaning "because they serve her comfort". At this point, he seeks a new deity, one to replace his mother. In the moment he finds her, he becomes her submissive servant, and he calls it love.

 

His empty life is given artificial meaning through it, as he dedicates all his actions to her comfort and later to the comfort of her children. As a goddess, she can not only punish him (by robbing him of his sense of belonging) but also reward him (by granting him sexual pleasure).

 

But the most important requirement of a divine woman is her inclination to hide and her stupidity.

 

Disguising and hiding make them appear strange and mysterious to men, while their stupidity makes it difficult to scrutinize them. While intelligence is evident in reasonable and logical actions, women are protected by a mask of sophistication, grandeur, artifice, and mystery, like the Pope or a dictator: they cannot be exposed and will grow stronger without obstacles.

 

Contemporary culture trains men to judge their worth by the appreciation of women. If a man spends some time on something of no value from a woman's point of view, such as watching football, for example, he will go to great lengths to quickly compensate for this negative point by increasing his activity in providing something for her in return.

 

One of the most effective factors in adapting men is praise. Its effect is much better and more lasting than words and sex, and it replaces the need for reprimand. Any man accustomed to a conditioned dose of praise will interpret the absence of this praise as displeasure!

 

A woman can act stupid - or pretend to be - as she wishes because, despite her stupidity, a man - despite her stupidity - will take care of her and will not abandon her. And women certainly will not admit that they do not do anything compared to men. They constantly find small tasks to keep themselves busy.

 

Self-deprecation in the presence of men has led women to develop a secret language understood by other women but incomprehensible to men. They become their own dictionary, and then every time they hear a standard phrase, they can decipher its true meaning.

 

Of course, women only use such phrases when there is a man around to hear them. When women are in the company of other women, they naturally talk about their husbands as if they were talking about household appliances! Everyone knows it's practical anyway.

 

When women gather, they discuss the desirable qualities of a particular man, they will never admit to wanting a man who respects them, a man who will protect them. Such empty talk will be greeted with the mocking laughter they deserve.

 

They will likely talk about a man who has such a job or such: jobs synonymous with income levels, or perhaps a woman will say, "The man I marry must be a little older than me, a little taller than me as well," meaning that it seems "natural" for a stronger, smarter, and older man to take care of a creature younger than him.

 

Women have no feelings. The woman have many wonderful ways to manipulate a man, two relatively harmless methods: "good ethics" for men and "emotional suppression."

 

The phrase "good ethics" for a woman means that any man must always treat the woman like a queen, and likewise, the woman must give the man every possible opportunity to treat her like a queen. The phrase "emotional suppression" means that the woman sees no need for the adult man to cry more than he needs to wet his bed.

 

The woman decides to remain tough, but she knows at the same time that she must play the role of a sensitive being, or else the man will realize her cold, calculating nature fundamentally. However, since her fake emotions never feel anything, she uses her partner's feelings for her own benefit.

 

She ensures that he believes her feelings are as deep as his, and it matters to her to make you feel that she is less stable and rational, and more emotional. Only then does he refrain from discovering her tricks. What an advantage for a man if he can only understand the cold thoughts in a woman's head while her eyes are flowing with tears.

 

She may reward you with sex, as every method of manipulation is based on the principle of the carrot and the stick, and when dealing with young people, the carrot is preferred as a means of control.

 

But remember that she can control her sexual desire more than the man controls his, note that the man never wears his clothes in a way that aims to arouse sexual desire in a woman, but the opposite is true with women, so she can use this carrot to reach the higher-income man and then control him.

 

When it comes to sex, not all women are eager, and they do not all hate sex. Women who suffer from desire are rare in films. So, don't make satisfying a woman sexually your main focus as a man, or you'll become a puppet in her hands, always trying to prove yourself as a real man.

 

Many women feel satisfied when a man's need for sex diminishes after having two or three children. This can alleviate many minor annoyances. Male sexual prowess is often disregarded, evident in the number of men with high salaries who marry despite being sexually inadequate.

 

According to the book's author: When a woman goes to work, such as a secretary, she's there to spend time in romantic games, teasing, flirting, and joking, with little actual work. The same applies to higher education.

 

While American colleges admit more women, the percentage of them completing their studies is lower than before World War II. They happily attend lectures, are preoccupied with designing their spring wardrobes, and flirt with boys between classes.

 

When a man works, it's a matter of life or death, a battle to the end. Yet, the man is just a small cog in the giant machinery of business, exploited at every turn. When he leads others, he leads himself more than anything else.

 

Some women still have jobs or careers at the age of twenty-five or older for various reasons:

a. Married to a failure, unable to provide adequately.

b. Unable to conceive; once a man's passion for her fades, he sees no reason to continue supporting her.

c. Ugly.

d. Liberated.

e. Passionate about a specific career.

 

Types (a) and (b) are closely related. As for ugly women, they're considered unattractive to men. Thus, they work for the same reason men do – no one else will do it for them. Even though a man supports his wife and children with his income, she works for herself.

 

Speaking of all these types, they are often very intelligent. While their early years may have allowed their intellectual abilities to atrophy, like all other women, they follow their mother's example. As they desire a man-slave, with age, they realize their opportunities diminish.

 

Some women in this group achieve real success, often receiving high honors (simply for not being neglected). These educated women (often journalists, writers, politicians, doctors, or lawyers) often provide excellent service to exploiters in suburban farmhouses. "Look at that," these women say. "We can do the same as them, but we gave up everything for you."

 

Ugly women must be hardworking and honest (by compulsion, not choice) because indulgence and attempts to deceive men will make them a laughingstock.

 

Things get more complicated when considering so-called "liberated" women. They never work for money; they have all the necessary tools of a housewife:

We meet them in the waiting rooms of film producers and executives, production assistants, or instant translators. You'll find them behind the desk of a travel agency or in a jewelry store or antique dealer, anywhere they can meet wealthy and interesting people. What do they do with their money? It's almost entirely spent on their appearances.

 

They simply can't live without money, but they can quit their job at any time. They never work without several life-saving options. When any sign of trouble looms, a man somewhere rushes to her aid.

 

This type of woman finds it unjust not to advance as fast as men. However, she is willing to quit her job anytime if things get tough or if a wealthy and influential husband is the alternative.

 

Husbands of so-called liberated women are often very unhappy because their manhood compels them to always strive to outpace their wives in financial and professional success. She feels competitive, so the liberated woman is far from being a helper to her husband. She exploits him more than others; the higher she rises, the more relentlessly she leads him. Such women often ascend to truly important positions either by chance or because they are attractive enough.

 

Professional respect for her terrifies him, living in constant fear of being surpassed one day. Moreover, he suffers from jealousy of the strange men she meets every day. He feels useless as if his existence serves no purpose because she no longer needs him.

 

Women alone can break the empty cycle of manipulating and exploiting men, but they won't do it. There's absolutely no compelling reason for them to surrender to their feelings because they're heartless and know no pity.

 

And so, the world continues to sink deeper and deeper into the quagmire of fragility, savagery, and madness called femininity. And the dreaming man will never wake up from his dream. (End)